Dear Kristen,
I have been following your blog after a friend posted it on Facebook. Yesterday, we celebrated my oldest son’s 9th birthday. I am only telling you this because 9 years ago yesterday, our gestational carrier gave birth to him after 4 years of infertility, 6 unsuccessful IVF’s, 3 unsuccessful IUI’s, 3 unsuccessful Clomid cycles, and 4 years of tears and heartache. I know that right now in your journey, there is so much anticipation, so much worry, so many what if’s??? About 2 years into our journey of infertility, a friend’s mom pulled me aside and said this, “Stephanie, someday you will be a mom. It may not happen the way you had dreamed about. It may not be the baby you had pictured in your mind. But someday, somehow, you will be a mom. And at that moment, the rest of this will melt away”. And she was exactly right. It was so difficult, such a long, sad journey. But my time did come, the same as yours will come as well. There is a poem I’d like to share with you that I think is perfect for our situation, and I will try to post it on a separate comment. Your time WILL come. My son was born on June 10, 2003. A year and a half later, we had an unsuccessful IVF with our surrogate. I was crushed beyond belief. Three months later she was pregnant with our twins who were born healthy on August 25, 2005. But I will never forget how I felt when I was in your shoes, and I’m thinking of you all the time even though we’ve never met. I look forward to following your journey through your blog.
Stephanie McVey, mom of 3 boys through gestatational surrogacy
Stephanie, thank you for your sweet messages. I am wondering if you are confused, however, as this is Jamie’s blog – the biological mother of the baby Kristen (our surrogate) will carry.
No Foot Is Too Small 
Dear Kristen,
I have been following your blog after a friend posted it on Facebook. Yesterday, we celebrated my oldest son’s 9th birthday. I am only telling you this because 9 years ago yesterday, our gestational carrier gave birth to him after 4 years of infertility, 6 unsuccessful IVF’s, 3 unsuccessful IUI’s, 3 unsuccessful Clomid cycles, and 4 years of tears and heartache. I know that right now in your journey, there is so much anticipation, so much worry, so many what if’s??? About 2 years into our journey of infertility, a friend’s mom pulled me aside and said this, “Stephanie, someday you will be a mom. It may not happen the way you had dreamed about. It may not be the baby you had pictured in your mind. But someday, somehow, you will be a mom. And at that moment, the rest of this will melt away”. And she was exactly right. It was so difficult, such a long, sad journey. But my time did come, the same as yours will come as well. There is a poem I’d like to share with you that I think is perfect for our situation, and I will try to post it on a separate comment. Your time WILL come. My son was born on June 10, 2003. A year and a half later, we had an unsuccessful IVF with our surrogate. I was crushed beyond belief. Three months later she was pregnant with our twins who were born healthy on August 25, 2005. But I will never forget how I felt when I was in your shoes, and I’m thinking of you all the time even though we’ve never met. I look forward to following your journey through your blog.
Stephanie McVey, mom of 3 boys through gestatational surrogacy
Stephanie, thank you for your sweet messages. I am wondering if you are confused, however, as this is Jamie’s blog – the biological mother of the baby Kristen (our surrogate) will carry.